Mindful Monday 26th August

Peggy porschen - Mindful Monday 26th August - My dream, luxury, lesson, and inspiration

Bank Holiday Monday – The best kind of Monday right?

Especially with it is 32°C and you can spend the whole day outside with your family. It has been a glorious weekend.

I decided to take time off, reflect, enjoy and just be in the moment. It was exactly what I needed.

I have made quite a big decision. For a while I have felt short on time and like my creativity has been stretched more than I have enjoyed. Being a blogger is seriously hard work, especially when you are writing two blogs in two different languages, trying to cater to completely different market and try not to lose yourself in the process.

I have been blogging since 2007, and there are over 9 000 posts on my Swedish blog. Mental right?

I have been blogging from when I was single and fairly new to London. Traveling the world modeling and partying most nights away with my friends. My Swedish followers have come on my journey, seen boyfriends come and go, they were with me meeting Garth 9 years ago, his proposal, our wedding and finally my pregnancy and the birth of our baby boy Ace almost 2 years ago. I have updated that blog almost every day in the last 12 years…

It has been amazing to communicate with such a big group of people daily. I can’t even begin to explain how privileged I feel.

But with my new job, Ace and trying to have a grown-up life. Something has to give.

Since I really love blogging, I’m not going to stop. But I can’t run two blogs anymore. It’s just too much work.

I much rather do one thing really well, than two things half-baked. So that’s why I have decided to close down my Swedish blog.

I have been living in London for almost 15 years, my work is here, my little family is here, most of my friends are here. It makes sense that I focus on this blog and the UK market. Sweden will always be my home, but I need to make time and mental space for new things.

…And after all Swedish people are really great at English, so any of my readers over there who are keen to still follow me, are of course more than welcome to come here. (If you are one of them, thank you for reading! I was worried I was going to lose you and I’m sooooo happy you made your way here).

This is my dream, luxury, lesson, and inspiration this week; 

My mantra this week  – ” Every new beginning comes from the end of another beginning”. I have to let go to be able to move forward. It’s the end of an era to close down the Swedish blog. But it will allow me to do much more on this blog. So I choose to see it as a beginning instead of an end.

My affirmation this week – “My intuition will guide me”. I’m ready for this new chapter and I want my gut feeling to be my compass. It feels right to free up this time to focus on other things. And to be honest most of all I feel relieved not to have to stretch myself like I have done in the last year.

My goal this week – …is more of a goal for the next month. I need to find a new photographer. I’m going to test shoot with a couple of people in the next couple of weeks and hopefully, I can find someone who will be a good match.

My dream of the week  – I dream of making this blog as successful as my Swedish one has been. Hopefully, you guys will help me make that dream come true.

Peggy porschen - Mindful Monday 26th August - My dream, luxury, lesson, and inspiration

My focus this week  – This week all my focus lies on work. I have had a great weekend with the family and I’m ready to get stuck in. Tomorrow is an office day at xInfluence. On Wednesday I’m shooting with a new photographer and ….

The event of the week – … on Thursday I’m off to Rewardstyle’s HQ to shoot a Q&A on sustainable fashion for the LikeToKnow.it stories. I’m super excited and will be bringing with me some amazing sustainable pieces from my own wardrobe. Make sure not to miss it!

My lesson from last week – I realized last week that some peoples opinions don’t actually matter to me. I have at times given people to much power over my happiness and it’s time to stop. So from now on, I will be better at who I listen to.

My little luxury this week – I have half a day on Thursday after the Q&A when I have nothing planned. I might blog, but I could also just go window shopping. I only buy one item a month, but I can still look.

My inspiration this week  – I have actually not listened to the Tim Ferri’s podcast before. I have read a couple of his books and I love them. So I began listening to one of his podcasts the other day and it was super inspiring. I know what I will be doing on my way to work tomorrow. Check it out!

What is your dream, luxury, lesson, and inspiration this week?

Photo – Ida Zander. You can find the details of my outfit on my LikeToKnow.it account here. 

 

The Sustainable Wardrobe – My 5 rules to develop your timeless style

The Sustainable Wardrobe - My 5 rules to develop your timeless style - If you are staring into your closet and wondering what to keep and what to get rid off. Here are 5 simple rules that will help you find your timeless style.

So we have finally got off the trend rollercoaster and want to ditch fast fashion in favor of a more timeless approach to style.

It might sound easy, but sometimes it’s not.

You see, trends are convenient. They tell you what you should be wearing. So you actually don’t really have to think too much about what you are buying. There is never any need for you to stretch your style wings and go off in your own direction. It’s all already chosen and planned for you. Copy + Paste!

If you now are staring into your closet and wondering what to actually keep and what to get rid off. What to buy more off and what to never look at again. I have 5 really simple rules that should get you well on your way to finding your own timeless style.

1. Don’t think that timeless style looks the same for everyone.

It’s actually the opposite. Because a timeless wardrobe will not be inspired by magazines or runway shows. It will be inspired only by you. The trick is to figure out what you love to wear, what you look good in and your actual clothing needs. 

Think about your 5 favorite items in your closet. These have to be things that you are actually wearing on a regular basis and will wear again. What do they have in common? What is it that makes you love that particular item? Is there a recurring color or theme?

These 5 should be the base of your new wardrobe. They are the core of your personal style. 

2. Shop for your actual life.

When I was a shopaholic I mainly bought cocktail dresses and really high heels. I imagined myself dancing the night away and looking glamorous in my new whatever chain dress it was…

Sure I did go out from time to time. (This was obviously before I entered baby land). But not as often as I actually bought an outfit. I had loads of pretty dresses hanging in my wardrobe still with tags on. Waiting for that one magic night and after to be discarded in some black hole of a drawer and never see the light of day again. For many of those dresses that night never came. I got rid of most of them in my big Marie Kondo clear out.

It was so silly. I was shopping for a life I wasn’t living. 

These days my wardrobe is divided into 25% office workwear, 25% relaxed mom-stuff, 25% party and event items and the rest is sleepwear, workout gear, and general bits and bobs. 

These are the things I actually need. So now you have to figure out what balance your wardrobe should have. 

The Sustainable Wardrobe - My 5 rules to develop your timeless style - If you are staring into your closet and wondering what to keep and what to get rid off. Here are 5 simple rules that will help you find your timeless style.

3. Ask yourself a few questions before every new purchase.

Before you buy anything ask yourself these questions. Can I make at least 3 outfits from this item using what I already have in my wardrobe? Will I wear this in 3 years time? Does it fit perfectly right now? (Never buy for a body you think you will have later unless you are pregnant of course).

If the answer is “no” to the first 2 questions. Don’t buy it. If the answer is no to the 3rd question, then you need to ask yourself 2 more questions. Can this be tailored to fit me perfectly? …And Is it worth the spend to both purchase and tailor this item?

4. Think quality over quantity and make sure you understand Price Per Wear.

I want you top open your mind and wallet to all price points. Dreamy buys that were too expensive in the past might be completely appropriate now. When you don’t chase trends you will be able to wear your clothes for longer and therefore buy less. And when you buy less, you will have more to spend on each individual item.

Another reason why to look at slightly more expensive brands is the re-sell value. You might not be able to re-sell 5 tops from H&M, but if you buy one designer item for the same price. You will most likely be able to get at least half the money back if the item is timeless and well-taken care off. 

5. Allow yourself to have fun.

Now when no one is telling you what to wear and how to wear it, you can afford to be creative. Not only with your purchases but also in how you wear things. No one can tell you that your own personal style is wrong, because you are the one making the rules.

With time you will embrace your little quirks and become an expert in hunting out items that wouldn’t fit anyone else than you. They will be those little gems in your wardrobe that you love the most. 

As with anything, practice makes perfect. You can’t expect to nail your personal timeless style straight away. There will be some bad buys (hopefully you will re-sell these and get at least some money back). Slowly but surely you will get to know yourself and what you actually want to wear.

I promise you will never regret ditching fast fashion for timeless style. Your wardrobe and your wallet can thank me later.

Photo – Ida Zander. You can find the links to my outfit on my LikeToKnow.it account here. 

 

Working out? – Wear your fishnets!

Planet Nusa - What a gloriously amazing idea to make workout gear out of recycled fishnets and other plastics from the ocean. I want to both feel and look good...

Wearing fishnets to the gym …say what?!

Actually, it’s a brilliant idea. Comfortable, looks great and sustainable.

If the fishnets are in the shape of workout gear by Planet Nusa that is.

What a gloriously amazing idea to make workout gear out of recycled fishnets and other plastics from the ocean. I mean we want to feel and look good when we work out and these items tick both boxes.

Talk about a feel-good workout!

Planet Nusa - What a gloriously amazing idea to make workout gear out of recycled fishnets and other plastics from the ocean. I want to both feel and look good...

I love how brands have started thinking outside the box. To be able to take something that would otherwise ruin our world and re-purpose it into something not only totally usable but even gorgeous. It’s so clever!

Imagine what else we could make out of recycled fishnets or plastic bottles?

I understand how much harder it is for a company to be sustainable and I applaud anyone who does anything to incorporate sustainability in their process. We can’t expect 100% yet, because there needs to be a profit for the business or it won’t work out.

Imagine if brands would compete in sustainability. If we as consumers really show how much we value initiatives like these. In the end, more brands are going to follow suit. This is why we HAVE to make the right choices when we buy. Buy less, buy better and make a stand with our power as consumers.

It’s all about supply and demand in the end.

Planet Nusa - What a gloriously amazing idea to make workout gear out of recycled fishnets and other plastics from the ocean. I want to both feel and look good...

And btw…I have pretty bad Diastasis recti.

So for me to show my midriff in anything really testifies to the genius of this design. I actually feel pretty and confident in this outfit. Even though my abs are separated and I at times still look about 4 months pregnant.

I love how the trousers go all the way up over my belly button and cover my personal problem area that I’m not too excited to show off (or be reminded of). I feel great wearing this set.

So this is definitely not the last pair of Planet Nusa’s I will own. 

This post contains gifts.

 

Mindful Monday 19th August

Mindful Monday - my dream, goal, lesson, and mantra this week

Hi guys, how was your weekend?

My little boy is feeling a lot better now and is finally sleeping again. So I actually feel really rejuvenated and ready to hit this week running.

I have had 6 months of change and re-focus on my social media. I used to mainly focus on the Scandinavian market. But then about a year ago I felt it was time to open up and start blogging in English too. And that’s how this blog came to be. Sure my English isn’t flawless, but I’m thinking it can only improve with practice.

I might be Swedish, but I live in London and I have most of my friends and my little family here. So it felt like the right thing to do. I still kept blogging in Swedish, but I have switched the majority of my time and effort from that blog to this one.

It has taken me quite some time to get both this blog and my Instagram to where I wanted it to be before I was ready to put it out in the world properly again. I had to re-focus and re-align.

I have had social media/blog agents in Sweden since 2008, but I decided to leave them in January and go on my own. This is why you haven’t seen any sponsored posts on this blog or on my Instagram for a few months. I wanted to get my brand perfectly in line with my personal ethos before I could invite anyone in to join me.

Sure, I lost quite a lot of money and I have turned down a few pretty tempting collaborations. But I can’t live in the past and I need to do what feels right for me in my new direction.

And it has been totally worth it. Now I’m lined up to work with the kind of companies I only dreamt of before. All my content feels 100% genuine at all times and I’m always excited to blog and share.

It took this re-boot to find my mojo again. And now I’m super excited about the future. This shows you sometimes have to take a leap of faith, pull back and “loose out”. To be able to go forward, change, and grow.

This is my dream, goal, lesson, and mantra this week; 

My mantra this week  – “You have to invest to grow”. Many things I worried about in regards to my social media and blog has fallen into place this week. And I’m so relieved. I have taken a big financial hit, but I see it as an investment in my future and it’s all finally coming together and beginning to bear fruit. Not all investments are spending money, some are losing money for a greater purpose.

My affirmation this week – “I’m 100% authentic in my voice”. Every word I write is confidently mine and I know exactly what direction I am moving in. It’s such a relief after a start of the year filled with uncertainty.

My goal this week – I want to find a new agent, here in the UK. I might not find one straight away, but I’m ready to put myself out there again.

My dream of the week  – I dream of creating a tight brand around my blog and socials. I love the things I’m doing at the moment and I want to amplify all of it into something bigger.

Mindful Monday - my dream, goal, lesson, and mantra this week

My focus this week  – This week I’m focusing on sharing my content and finding ways to grow now when I’m ready again. I truly believe in what I do and I want the people who follow me to feel that I bring value to their lives.

The event of the week – On Wednesday I’m off to an afternoon tea with Kate Hudson. She is launching her brand HappyxNature here in the UK and I’m super excited to get a little sneak peek. What do you want me to ask her?

My lesson from last week –Everything is a phase. The good, the bad… it all changes constantly. Sometimes from one week to another. We just have to have patience and hope.

My little luxury this week – I’m taking Wednesday morning off to go to the hairdresser. And I won’t bring my laptop, I’m just going to read Vogue and relax! I can’t wait.

My inspiration this week  – This week I’m inspired by my own journey. Is that ok? Well, I am very proud of myself at the moment. So I’m going to run with it.

What is your dream, goal, lesson, and mantra this week

Photo – Ida Zander. My dress is a pre-loved find from Vanessa Bruno via Vestiaire Collective. (Affiliate link)

 

Do you feel old? I will tell you why!

Did you know that the median life is 37.8? When we have passed this number in years, we are officially closer to old than young. To death than birth. Depressing right?  However, do we actually feel old at 37? When I think of old, I see wrinkly faces, grey hair, hunched backs and hair growing in all the wrong places. You have to be really unlucky to look like that at 37...

It’s funny, isn’t it? Aging.

Or maybe not funny at all. To some, even absolutely terrifying.

If you think about it, every day we live is one step closer to old age, brain and body breakdown and ultimately death. No one can change it, no one can escape it. We can’t buy or make time. It’s the one thing we all have in common, rich, poor, male, female, Hillary or Trump. We will all die at some point.

I think the reason why we obsess so much about the outer signs of aging is that it reminds us daily of our mortality. When the flower no longer is a bud, but wide open and the leaves are starting to tremble in the wind. All of a sudden life feels very short.

So we try to fix the outside, maybe in the hope of slowing the process down. But most likely because we don’t want to be reminded that another day, month, year has blown by.

Did you know that the median life is 37.8? When we have passed this number in years, we are officially closer to old than young. To death than birth. Depressing right?

However, do we actually feel old at 37? When I think of old, I see wrinkly faces, grey hair, hunched backs and hair growing in all the wrong places. You have to be pretty unlucky to look like that at 37…

I’m 36 and I only just started feeling like a grown-up. I don’t feel old at all!

Yes, my face and body are showing the first small signs of aging. My skin is not as elastic as it used to be, creases stay after I stopped smiling and I have more visible veins. But I don’t look in the mirror and think “heck I will die soon”.

Did you know that the median life is 37.8? When we have passed this number in years, we are officially closer to old than young. To death than birth. Depressing right?  However, do we actually feel old at 37? When I think of old, I see wrinkly faces, grey hair, hunched backs and hair growing in all the wrong places. You have to be really unlucky to look like that at 37...

What does makes me feel old sometimes is society and the constant obsession with youth. It’s so unrelatable to most of us. And incredibly stressful for anyone past 25.

I mean even the majority of anti-aging adverts are featuring 20-year-olds. As if they just couldn’t find anyone over 30 who looked decent enough to take a photo of… Who decided we have an expiry date on beauty? It just doesn’t make sense, why alienate your target group by shaming them?

I had a very short discussion today on an Instagram account of a dermatologist. I have been thinking about going to her for a consultation, but her Instagram feed put me off. It was full of 20 something models with glowing skin. Sure, it looks amazing and attractive. But I just could not relate. I asked in the comments why she only featured such young women. And the answer was that those are her clients.

Thing is, I’m pretty sure those girls have not paid (or at least not in full) for those treatments. Most of them had 100K+ followers and had shared multiple pictures on their feeds raving about the doctor. It reeked of unmarked Influencer marketing.

The problem is that these girl’s followers most likely are their age and to be honest, probably can’t afford the rate this doctor charges. On top of that, she is alienating people like me. Her real potential clients.

This is such a great example of the misunderstanding of youth in marketing. It’s believed to be the holy grail, but it’s not. Youth does not equal beauty. Beauty can be found in all ages.

No one can sell youth, but we can sell beauty. So sell it to the people who want it, not to the ones who already have it. Girls over 30 don’t look at 20 somethings and think we wished we looked like them. We look at ourselves and want to keep what we got. We want to age gracefully.

If marketing would end their love affair with youth and take a look around, I’m sure they would do a lot better. Stop stereotyping women and look at our actual needs and wants. Be a bit more realistic.

And above all, stop making us feel old when we are not!

Photo – Ida Zander. You can find my leopard print dress here. 

 

My One-item-a-month in August; A pre-loved white silk blouse from L’Agence

I saw this stunning white silk blouse by L'Agence in a really lovely pre-loved designer shop in Wandsworth called Shonamac. I actually went in to drop off some of my own clothes and came out with 5 fewer items than I brought in. So not too bad all considered.

I have to admit, I was a bit early buying this month’s one-item-a-month this time. 

Actually, I bought it mid-July and have been dying to show it to you since. I decided I would wait a couple of weeks though. To space it all out evenly here on the blog.

I saw this stunning white silk blouse by L’Agence in a really lovely pre-loved designer shop in Wandsworth called Shonamac. I actually went in to drop off some of my own clothes and came out with 5 fewer items than I brought in. So not too bad all considered.

I saw this stunning white silk blouse by L'Agence in a really lovely pre-loved designer shop in Wandsworth called Shonamac. I actually went in to drop off some of my own clothes and came out with 5 fewer items than I brought in. So not too bad all considered.

I have been looking for a white silk blouse to wear at work for a while, and when I saw it hanging there. I knew I had to get it or would regret it forever after. (Those perfect items that get away. There are few things more annoying!)

Don’t we all love covered buttons? It’s soo pretty. And I absolutely adore that the buttons are in the back of the blouse. It’s such beautiful detail. And even though it looks like I might have to contort myself to get the blouse off, luckily there are regular buttons at the front.

I saw this stunning white silk blouse by L'Agence in a really lovely pre-loved designer shop in Wandsworth called Shonamac. I actually went in to drop off some of my own clothes and came out with 5 fewer items than I brought in. So not too bad all considered.

I always think collarless blouses and shirts make such a nice minimal statement. Especially if the item is quite busy already. This blouse, has bishop sleeves, pleating and covered buttons both on the back and the sleeve. It could easily get a bit much if a collar was added on top.

The fabric is silk, and although it’s sheer and floaty, it’s not too see-through. The only negative is that silk really does crinkle. So I have to keep my steamer at hand in the morning.   

I saw this stunning white silk blouse by L'Agence in a really lovely pre-loved designer shop in Wandsworth called Shonamac. I actually went in to drop off some of my own clothes and came out with 5 fewer items than I brought in. So not too bad all considered.

This is such a great addition to my work wardrobe. It’s timeless, from a great brand, in a beautiful fabric with amazing details. And pre-loved too! So I know I made a great choice for the environment. Thank you to whoever dropped it at the shop, it might have been your trash, but it’s surely my treasure

I don’t think I could have found a better piece of clothing to get for my one-item-a-month this month.

Ok, please share with me your favorite purchase lately. It doesn’t have to be a one-item-a-month purchase. Maybe you can inspire my buy for next month?

You can find the other items I chose here – January, February, March, April, May, June, and July.

Photo – Ida Zander.

You can find my white silk blouse by L’Agence (“Raquel”)  below (affiliate links)

 

Mindful Monday 12th August

Mindful Monday 12th August - my dream, goal, mantra, and lesson this week

Hello lovelies, how are you this week?

I always try to leave last week behind on Monday morning. But this time it was a bit harder than normal. Little Ace is not feeling well and isn’t eating or sleeping at all. He has blisters in his mouth and throat and has cried more this weekend than in the last 3 months put together. Poor little man, it’s so hard when they don’t understand why they are in pain.

So I’m unfortunately I’m taking sleep deprivation and some worry with me into the new week. It’s just one of the things you deal with as a parent. My main concern is, of course, for him to get better quickly.

This is my dream, goal, mantra, and lesson this week; 

My mantra this week  – “This too shall pass”. After 3 nights of no more sleep than an hour in one go. My brain is starting to feel slightly mushy. The most important thing as a parent is to remember that everything is a phase and it will go back to normal/get better again. He will get better, we will sleep again, it will pass.

My affirmation this week – “I will not stress over things I cannot control”. As long as I have done my best whatever will be, will be. If I start worrying about all the things I cannot affect, then I would do nothing else but worry. I have to just trust that everything will work out for the best.

My goal this week – My goal this week is actually already accomplished. Good Monday hey? We had our first influencer event at xInfluence today and it went really well. Everybody turned up, things ran smoothly, I had my presentation, wore a really amazing dress and I think everyone had a good time. So from now on the rest of the week should be smooth sailing.

My dream of the week  – I’m dreaming of a massive bathroom with a big freestanding bathtub. We don’t have a bath at home and I miss things like bubbles, bath bombs and Epsom salt. Reading in the bath is one of my favorite things to do.

Mindful Monday 12th August - my dream, goal, mantra, and lesson this week

My focus this week  –

 I had to focus mainly on the event today. But the rest of the week, it will be Ace and his well-being I will put all my effort into. And then I will need some sleep. Make that lots of sleep!

The event of the week – Our event today of course. We had 15 influencers in fashion and beauty all over 30 at our HQ for a workshop and some afternoon tea. It was amazing to get to meet all of them and get to know them a bit better. My job is to be the influencer’s voice on the platform. So it’s really important that I know what they want.

My lesson from last week – I must trust my gut instinct more. I had a feeling on Thursday when I dropped Ace off at nursery that he wasn’t really ok. And it turns out he was poorly and probably would have been happier at home. I believe that kids need their parents when they are not feeling well and I feel a bit like I let him down. Garth stayed home with him today, because of my event at home.

My little luxury this week – I’m thinking I might book myself a massage at home on Friday. If there is one thing I love, it’s a good long massage at the end of a busy week.

My inspiration this week  – I have always been very inspired by Stella McCartney. She creates amazing designs AND does it in an environmentally friendly way. She has been doing it for years and was one of the very first true climate heroes.

What is your dream, goal, mantra, and lesson this week

Photo – Ida Zander. You can find my pretty dress on my LikeToKnow.It account here. 

How pretty is this scalloped Ted Baker dress? The little bow is such a sweet detail and I can wear it both to work and out with friends
 

My haircare routine to keep long blond hair healthy

We all have something that defines us. A physical trait that is our look and makes us feel like ourselves. For me, it's my hair. This is my haircare routine

I think we all have something that defines us. A physical trait that stands out in our look and makes us feel like, well ourselves.

For me, it’s my hair.

I have always had long blond hair. Except for that one time in college when I cut it off for a modeling gig and wore a hat for the next year. After that incident, I realized how much my hair defined my look and how I would never make that same mistake again.

Since then I have had countless clients waving big wads of cash in front of me to get to chop it off or turn it red, brown or even pink. And every time my answer is the same  – “No way!”.

I know models are meant to be moldable and all that Americas Next Top Model crap. But I am not willing to sacrifice my body and confidence for work. I know how long it would take to grow it out again and no money in the world can make up for that time. Long blond hair is my signature and it is staying.

People often ask me if I don’t get bored and to be completely honest I don’t. I actually love the versatility it gives me.

I can wear it down just out of the shower for a natural look, run a wand trough it for a soft curl or just get a bouncy blowdry and look American for a day or two. I can also put it in a high pony, low messy bun, a low pony with a side or middle parting, high ballerina bun, plats, space buns… you name it.

It’s also really convenient to hide behind it when I have a bad day and want to be left alone. Who wants to talk to cousin IT from the Addams family? It’s really handy on the tube.

We all have something that defines us. A physical trait that is our look and makes us feel like ourselves. For me, it's my hair. This is my haircare routine

But I do have to admit it takes a lot of maintenance. 

I’m one of these people who are typically Scandinavian ashy medium blond. Or rat-blonde as we call it in Sweden. It’s a nice color in the summer when the sun lightens it up a bit, but in the winter it’s just dull.

So I highlight my hair every 8 weeks. 

Long hair is prone to split ends. And the only way to keep on top of it is to cut it regularly. So every 8 weeks I color and cut. It takes about 5 hours from start to finish and since I’m really picky with who I go to, it is not cheap.

Massive bit of advice – If you don’t have to highlight or color your hair, don’t do it. It gets very expensive in the long run.

The other thing with highlighted hair is that it is more sensitive to breakage. So I have to be really good at the home-care bit of my haircare routine. I wash it 3 times a week and every time I put a hair mask in for at least 10 minutes (I use that time to shave my legs, exfoliate or just dance around and sing badly).

Once every other week I do a 20 minute Olaplex home treatment, to make sure my hair stays really healthy. Olaplex is to hair what chocolate is to the soul – truly healing. But it will only work if your hair is in fact damaged. That’s why some people see no difference at all.

With my job comes a lot of hairstyling and sometimes I am honestly surprised I even have hair still. Modeling and nice hair do not go hand in hand.

I do a bit of skin doubling for a supermodel with the same color hair and skin as mine. And she actually has no hair left. It’s all extensions. Her own hair is a few inches long because it has been styled to death.

We all have something that defines us. A physical trait that is our look and makes us feel like ourselves. For me, it's my hair. This is my haircare routine

This is why I’m super meticulous with my heat protector. I take that thing everywhere and re-apply any time I see a curler, dryer or tong coming my way. I cannot stress how important it is to protect hair from heat. I even use hair SPF when I go on sun holidays. I know, crazy hair lady here!

Actually one of my top tips is to leave a really nice treatment in your hair when you are sunbathing. Just wrap it up in a scarf and let the heat of the sun do its thing. Hair comes out lush, AND you get to rock a cool 70s vibe. Just add dangly earrings and a cocktail.

I would also recommend you to stop using drugstore shampoos and conditioners. Some of that stuff can strip paint. They are so harsh, there is this one brand hairstylists recommend you to use if you want to get rid of the color in your hair.

I myself am a massive fan of Redken’s All soft range. I have been using it for years. (Hello Redken, you got a great ambassador here! Email me on Tess@TessM.se, I would loooove to work with you!). Since my hair does get dry, this series put softness back into it. If you have oily roots I would go for a less moisturizing shampoo and only put conditioner in the lengths of your hair.

My last few tips are to use hairbands without the metallic bit, it rubs on the hair and can lead to damage. I would also invest in a really great hairbrush, some argan oil drops and if you have a lot of hair like me – a tangle teaser for when it’s wet.

So there you have it – my haircare routine. It’s a long post, so I have left out how I style it, but I promise I will make a post on that subject at a later date.

Ok, your turn. What are your best hair tips for the rest of us?

Check out the products I use for my haircare routine below (affiliate links). You can find my adorable polka dot dress here. It’s on sale! 

 

4 steps to curating a versatile and stylish workwear wardrobe

As head of creative talent at xInfluence, I host workshops, attend meetings, lunches, and events. I really need a stylish versatile workwear wardrobe.

As head of creative talent at xInfluence, I’m not just working in an office environment, I also host workshops, attend meetings, lunches, and events. 

I need what I’m wearing to be appropriate, comfortable, versatile and on top of this to show off my own personal style. I’m working in a fashion and style environment, so regular office attire wouldn’t cut it.

With all these different hats to wear and not enough time to change in between. I have had to curate my own highly specific capsule workwear wardrobe. Items that look the part, deal well with traveling, sitting for long periods of time and that still will be comfortable to wear for 12 hours straight.

As you might imagine this is not an easy feat. But I have developed a process to find the best possible workwear wardrobe.

As head of creative talent at xInfluence, I host workshops, attend meetings, lunches, and events. I really need a stylish versatile workwear wardrobe.

First I decide on fabrics. 

Since London is pretty humid and warm during the summer months I decided to opt for silks, satin, linen, and viscose. All lightweight fabrics that will keep my temperature at a good level and hopefully sweating to a minimal. Silk and linen do crease a bit, but I think of it as character and try to be as mindful as possible during the day.

Then I look at cuts.

Midi-dresses and silk trousers are always flattering and suitable for workwear. I love flowy fabrics that are roomy and comfortable but still looks elegant. So I  mainly focus on silk trousers and blouses, satin and viscose midi-dresses and linen suits.

As head of creative talent at xInfluence, I host workshops, attend meetings, lunches, and events. I really need a stylish versatile workwear wardrobe.

After I pick my colors.

I’m a pastel girl.

Especially in the summer, I like to keep my wardrobe colors as light and fun as possible. You won’t find any black suits in my wardrobe at the moment. As long as I keep the cut appropriate I can go bananas if I fancy.

I prefer smaller patterns to big and love gingham, florals, polka dots, leopard and stripes. In my line of work, there are no color restrictions. If anything I want to be remembered.

Last but not least I look for details and accessories

I have a massive thing for details. So all my dresses have little things like covered buttons, interesting sleeve shapes or a neckline detail. This is where my personal style really gets to show off. It’s that wow-factor that makes me fall for a piece of clothing.

I also add accessories when I see appropriate and to vary my different looks. Chunky or dainty jewelry depending on the look I’m going for. Handbags, silk totes, straw baskets, you name it. I’m a massive fan of scarves tied in all manner of ways. You can really switch a look up with the change of a few key accessories.

If I wear heels, they are of the kitten variety. My feet would be a mess otherwise. But most of the time I opt for flat sandals or luxe sneakers.

As head of creative talent at xInfluence, I host workshops, attend meetings, lunches, and events. I really need a stylish versatile workwear wardrobe.

I’m slowly but surely building an absolutely amazing workwear wardrobe for myself. At the moment I mainly have summer-appropriate outfits. But as the seasons change, I will have to add more cold-weather suitable items and fabrics.

It’s really lovely to have different wardrobes for different parts of my life. My at-home wardrobe looks nothing like my work wardrobe or my spending time with friends wardrobe.

Dressing also helps me get into the mood of what I’m supposed to focus on. When I wear my mom clothes I think softness and comfort. Whilst my office wear should make me feel empowered and elegant.

Writing this post actually makes me quite excited to start putting together my workwear wardrobe for fall. I promise I will do a post with my new favorites as soon as I have found the right pieces.

What do you wear to work?

Photo – Ida Zander. 

You can find my dresses and similar accessories for your workwear wardrobe below (affiliate links)

 

Mindful Monday 5th August – My dream, mantra, goal, and lesson this week

Mindful Monday 5th August - My dream, mantra, goal, and lesson this week

Hello Monday!

Are you excited for a new week and a new month? I love August, it’s still summer and warm, but a bit livelier than July. People are coming back from their holidays and most of us are well-rested and ready to go again.

We spent last weekend in Sweden. Having the most amazing time in my hometown Stockholm. It was incredible weather and we spent almost all days at the beach, swimming in the lake, sunbathing by the pool or fishing in dusk. It was the kind of summer I remember as a child and I’m so happy to be able to share it with my own little one.

Ace adores his grandparents, aunties and cousin. And he had an absolute blast spending time with all of them.

I took a few days off from the blogs and only updated sporadically on Instagram. It was bliss! I need to disconnect to be able to reconnect with creativity again.

This is my dream, mantra, goal, and lesson this week; 

My mantra this week  – “Keep the momentum going” You know those times where everything seems to just fall into place? I’m having one of those weeks. It’s almost like I have focused too much on certain things and now when I’m not as invested anymore, all of a sudden they are coming to me instead. I guess it’s always better to attract than chase, so I will keep on playing hard to get.

My affirmation this week – “I’m always doing my best”. We can only be expected to do our best, that is it. And if we do our best, no matter the outcome, we should be happy and proud.

My goal this week – We have our first influencer event with xInfluence on Monday, so this week is all about preparing for that. I have even added an extra day of work in the office to be able to get it all done in time. My goal is to have all my ducks in a row on Friday so that Monday is all about execution.

My dream of the week  – I’m dreaming of going to the spa for a 2-day stay. Just be pampered, not work, read books and relax. Sleep in, eat food slowly and enjoy nature and massages. That would be bliss.

Mindful Monday 5th August - My dream, mantra, goal, and lesson this week

My vision this week – I have this vision of a “suits” style of office. I mean, those girls know how to dress. I would looove to own the clothes in that wardrobe department. Cashmere, neutrals, sleek cuts, impeccable details… The luxury, the poise, the glam. I want it all!

My focus this week  – I need a tight to-do list this week, to not drop any balls either at work or at home. The price of getting to be a mom, head of creative talent at an influencer marketing platform, a model and an influencer is a slightly chaotic schedule.

The event of the week – I got a recall tomorrow from one of the big castings I went to with Ace on Friday. It would be amazing to book this campaign, so I’m keeping my fingers crossed.

My lesson from last week – I have to manage my stress better. To compartmentalize the things I’m not working on at the moment. Disconnect when I need to rest and not jump in-between tasks.

My little luxury this week – I’m going to spend 20 minutes on my spike mat every evening. Ace calls it the “aoo aoo mat” and loves touching the spikes with his tiny little fingers. I love the endorphin kick I get after.

My inspiration this week  – Talking about Suits, I think Meghan Markle is such an inspiration. She is taking the stuffiness out of the royal family and shows initiative similar to that of Diana. First with the “smart works” charity and now as a guest editor for change of British Vogue. There is nothing this woman can’t achieve.

What is your dream, mantra, goal, and lesson this week?

Photo – Ida Zander.