The wealth and fame equation for happiness

The wealth and fame equation for happiness

I have this on-going quest to figure out what really makes me happy in life. To find the equation for happiness.

Some people want to get rich, others want to get famous. I want to be happy.

I think people assume that if you are rich and famous, you must automatically end up happy. That you have to be the first two to end up with number three. But it’s really not a given. There are plenty of rich and famous people out there that are deeply unhappy.

I actually think fame is an antidote to happiness. A soon as people know a lot about you, they will have opinions. And often these opinions are not of the nice kind. So you have to grow a thick skin and be careful not to aggravate the people that are constantly scrutinizing you. It’s exhausting and won’t bring you any happiness.

Sure it’s nice that people know your name. You feel important and validated. But you pay the price with your privacy. So fame is not a part of the end-goal for me.

Also, fame doesn’t have to equal money. To have fame and no riches is the worst possible outcome of this equation. It’s expensive to be famous, you can’t move about like normal people. Everything you do have to be managed in a way or another.

Fame also doesn’t have to equal power. You can be famous for all kinds of reasons and not all of them will make people want to work with you or know your opinion.

So to have fame without money is probably the least likely part of the equation to end up in happiness.

The wealth and fame equation for happiness

So do I have to be rich to be happy?

I mean it would be nice to have loads of money, especially if no one knows who you are and won’t hassle you for it. You could buy whatever you want, but in the end, you can’t buy happiness.

Sure there are some pretty happy rich people out there. But they are probably not happy just because they are rich. Their happiness is more likely to come from their journey of self-realization, their passion, and purpose in life. They have most likely built their wealth from scratch and it’s the journey that has made them happy, not the end result.

If they would have won the same amount of money in the lottery, I doubt they would have felt the same way.

Because happiness isn’t at all an equation of wealth and fame. It’s about passion, love, self-realization, friends & family. About living a fulfilling life filled with laughter and love.

All I keep thinking is, why detour off to fame and wealth when we already have what we need from the start?

It’s really pretty simple. Work to feel fulfilled, spend time with people that make you feel loved, live a life you enjoy and that you yourself are proud of. That is the true equation for happiness. Money and fame have nothing to do with it.

It’s almost too easy, right?  

Photo – Ida Zander. Location – Metro Garden Clapham Common. Find my dress by Frock & Frill here (adlink). 

 

My all-time beauty favorites & latest buys

my all time beauty favorites

My beauty favorites.

There is a good reason to why I have never dared to put up a “shelfie” (ie a photo of my beauty shelf in the bathroom) up here on the blog.

I would have been way too ashamed of how many products I owned and how disorganized my shelves were.

When you get products sent, do collaborations with beauty brands and on top of this is a complete skincare geek that buys lots of new stuff to try out. It’s easy to end up with way more than you can ever use. I mean I only have one face!

So yesterday Ace got to be my little helper and we did a massive clear out. (Well, I cleared out and Ace tried to put it back again…). I only saved my absolute beauty favorites.

Anything past their use-by date got tossed. Things that were unopened and still usable ended up in my giveaway box. And the products that don’t suit the skin on my face got moved to my body-shelf instead. Why not use a lovely serum that isn’t completely right for the face, on the body instead? Re-purposing at it’s best.

I got rid of a massive bag of stuff.

I wish I could have given it all away, but any product that is opened and past their use-by date is not safe to use. I wouldn’t dare to use it myself and even less give it to anyone else.

I really should have given stuff away a lot earlier. I’m a bit mad at myself for wasting a lot of useful products. To my defense, I was pregnant for 10 months and then breastfeeding for another 8. So there were, unfortunately, a lot of products that expired during that time. I had to avoid anything that wasn’t super gentle since my hormones were all over the place.

But from now on it will change.

I’m only going to buy products I really like and I will make sure to finish it all. And anything I get sent that I know I won’t use will go straight into my give-away box without hesitation.

I love to look at my shelf now and only see products that I really love and use. Even though I had so many different bottles and tubs of all kinds, I only use very few of them. And most of my favorites were running out. Totally silly!

Maybe I will even post a shelfie at some point?

This week my plan is to have a good look at my skincare routine. See what I actually need and get those. I already bought a new eye cream from Dermalogica that I had recommended and a facewash from REN that I already love.

My next step is to find a good retinol product, a new primer with SPF and a really good face oil (preferably with a face roller since mine broke recently).

In the picture above you can see all the products I have bought recently. I have used all except the eye cream for a really long time and they work amazingly well for my skin.

These are my every-day beauty favorites (adlinks)

Shiseido Vaso – A facewash that I use when I need to remove makeup. 
 Dermalogica Stress positive eyelift  – A new eye cream I’m looking forward to trying out. 
Pai Rosehip BioRegenerate Oil – My evening serum (it makes you a bit orange) 
REN Rosa Centifola cleansing balm – A facewash I use in the morning or the days I don’t wear makeup. (It smells amazing!)
REN Vitamineral Emollient rescue creme – I use this as a super-moisturizing day cream. 
REN vitamineral Omega oil – My favorite serum hands down. I have been using it for years and years. I tend to apply it mainly in the morning. 
Vichy slow age night cream – I found this product when I did a collaboration with them a few months ago. This also leaves you a bit orange-tinted, but it’s lovely for the skin. 

Do you have any all-time beauty favorites to recommend?

 

Mindful Monday 4th of February – My lesson, mantra, goal and focus this week

Mindful Monday 4th of February - My lesson, mantra, goal and focus this week

February… finally! January felt like a year of its own, how can a month be that long?

It probably feels that way since it’s undeniably one of the most boring months of the year. We remove all the fun and festive Christmas decorations, pay the bills, make promises to go to the gym more often and try to get back into routines again. And if you are self-employed like me then you also have to do your accounts. Oh, joy!

Then February comes with its 28 days and feels like a breeze.

I have lots of fun stuff planned. Girls dinners, United Influencers influencers evening on Wednesday, Daisy Beauty awards gala next Wednesday and in-between I’m off on a little trip with Facebook and Instagram. All kind of work related, but also terribly fun and interesting.

Even though it’s kind of grey outside, I can almost hear spring coming in the distance. Little buds slowly forming, getting ready to crack open and bloom into cherry blossom and magnolia. Hurry, please!

My lesson, mantra, goal, and focus this week is;

My mantra this week   – ”Does it spark joy?” Haha, I’m a bit brainwashed by Marie Kondo at the moment. You who follow me on Instagram know that I did my own KonMari clear out of my closet this weekend. It was epic! I can’t believe I even had that much stuff that didn’t spark joy. I promise to write a proper post about the whole experience later this week.

No matter what, I love the concept of sparking joy and I think you can apply it to most things in life. Friends, work, routines, goals, and dreams. If you are hanging out with people that make you feel joy, then you are in the right crowd. You also have to make sure your goals and dreams spark joy too, otherwise, what’s the point? The big end goal is happiness, isn’t it?

My affirmation this week – ”Take a deep breath and let go”. I’m not just a hoarder when it comes to clothes. I also hold on to old parts of my life that actually doesn’t serve me anymore. I have to allow myself to cut things out and to evolve or I will be too weighed down to be able to go anywhere. The constant question is – what do I really want?

My goal this week – Is to have fun. I’m having dinner with my bestie Josefina tomorrow night and then I’m off to Sweden for the influencers evening. I get two nights in a row of inspiration and motivation, lucky me! A small goal is to finish at least one book since I for once will be able to sit down for a few hours during my flights and not be in Mamma-mode. It’s the perfect time for me to get some me-time.

My dream of the week –  Is actually a dream I’m dropping since it doesn’t spark joy anymore. See, it’s working!

I always dreamt of having a family and raising them in the states á la Desperate Housewives (minus the drama). A beautiful wisteria lane where all the ladies are my friends and our kids can play together outside without us having to worry. But I have realized that I would probably be disappointed once I got there. It’s a very idealistic dream and not really anchored in reality at all. Honestly, I rather move somewhere warm where I can surf every morning and do yoga outside at night.

My vision this week  – Me in our car, behind the wheels. I still don’t have a driver’s license and even though I have really enjoyed being this environmentally friendly and taking trains, buses and tubes everywhere I think it’s time. I want to be able to pack the car with baby and dog and just head out to the countryside for a day in the woods if I fancy. We have a lovely car and I really should be able to use it a lot more. So one of my goals for 2019 is to get that bloody license!

Mindful Monday 4th of February - My lesson, mantra, goal and focus this week

My focus this week – Recovery and sleep. Ace is in leap 10 and Olive has been chasing foxes in the garden every night lately. So sleep is a rare commodity in our house at the moment. When I took the photos for this post, I had slept 2 hours divided into 10-minute chunks the night before. So this week I’m keeping my tempo low and focusing on recovering.

The event of the week – The United Influencers influencers evening in Stockholm on Wednesday. I’m flying “home” to hang out with my team (they are my agent) and the other profiles over 24 hours. I haven’t seen them since the Instagram event in fall, so I’m super excited to see all of them. We honestly feel like we are a part of a big family at UI.

My lesson from last week – I really thought I would struggle to let old clothes that I had memories attached to go. But I’m very surprised at how easy it was. It really taught me something about myself and of how important it is to not have too much baggage in life.

My everyday-luxury this week – To get a night of sleep all on my own between Wednesday and Thursday. I’m not going to even set an alarm or plan anything for the morning on Thursday. So I can get a solid 8-9 hours of sleep and wake up by myself. I can’t remember when that happened last.

My inspiration this week – As you know by now, I’m very interested in the subject of happiness. This TED-talk by psychiatrist Robert Waldinger on the subject how important it is to have good people around us is fascinating. It really made me think about who I want to spend my time with and why.

Ok, your turn. What’s your lesson, mantra, goal, and focus this week?

Photo – Ida Zander. My dress is by Max & Co (adlink).

Mindful Monday 4th of February - My lesson, mantra, goal and focus this week
My lesson, mantra, goal, and focus this week
 

One-item-a-month Challenge – My February-item

One-item-a-month Challenge - My February-item

 I know I really should be cooler than this, but I just HAVE to show you what I got as my February-item in my one-item-a-month challenge.

I realized I will not be the kind of person that will be able to wait to buy anything.  I will most likely have decided on the item to buy mid-way through the month before and possibly already have pressed “check out”. But I’m sticking with only one item a month, that is the rule.

So since it’s the 1st of February I don’t feel bad ( but slightly un-cool) to show you my new blouse by Y.A.S. (adlink)

Not only was it the cheapest one of the items I looked at. I also fell head over heels in love with it as soon as I tried it on. I love a collarless blouse or shirt and when it comes with dreamy balloon sleeves, it’s pretty much a no-brainer.

It’s in their “tall” collection, but to be honest I didn’t really notice. I’m quite petite, and it’s slightly oversized in the length, but I will most likely wear it tucked in. If anything it just made the sleeves even a bit more balloon-ey.

I think you know by now that I’m super excited about this challenge. it’s really working for me, I’m so much more careful of what I buy and how it will work with the rest of my wardrobe. It’s also more sustainable for the environment so I really have nothing to lose.

One-item-a-month Challenge - My February-item

I’m actually trying to be more sustainable with most things in my life.

I have switched paper cups for a keep-cup, plastic water bottles for a lovely metal one with Liberty print (I will show you in a later post). I even use a whole lot of less cling film since I got these amazing waxy sheets that mold around plates and bowls from my sister Steffi for Christmas. They are brilliant!

When it comes to food I try to buy what’s in season, to make sure my food hasn’t traveled far. I also always get organic and fair trade produce. Our meat is from local organic farms and we try in general to be mindful not to waste.

I know there are still plenty of things I can do and I will keep on exploring.

We do have to remember that it’s not sustainable to expect anyone to do everything. But if we all do a bit then we can actually make a change.

Sooo, I’m dying to know. What is your February-item? (share with a link please, so we can all get inspired). 

Photo – Ida Zander

 

My one-item-a-month challenge; A statement Blouse in February?

My one-item-a-month challenge; A statement Blouse in February?

I’m already really enjoying my “one-item-a-month challenge” a lot more than I thought I would.

It’s almost becoming a sport to pick the best, most suitable and reasonable piece of clothing I can find. I can only pick one, so it has to be something I really love.

Of course, I have already started canvassing the shops for my February treat. After having a good look at my wardrobe I realized I am indeed in need of another statement blouse. I have this one shirt by Levi’s that tend to be my go-to whenever I want to look nice, but fancy wearing jeans. And I feel like I have worn it a bit too often lately. So it would be lovely to have another one that I love just as much to switch my look up a bit.

A statement blouse is a great item to have since it can be worn from day to night with just a little swap of accessories. I can wear it buttoned up in the day and a bit looser at night. Add a dash of red lipstick and a couple of heels and I’m on my way to a girly dinner.

At the moment I’m leaning slightly towards the red polka-dot Michael Kors blouse (it’s on sale…), the gorgeous geo-print blouse by Y.A.S or maybe the white Anna Mason blouse in Victoriana style (this one is on sale too!)

I’m going to do my best to vary my 12 items this year. In January I picked a maxi dress by Swedish designer Filippa K (adlink). In February I’m going for a statement blouse and I will continue like this until I have a great little versatile capsule wardrobe that fits perfectly in with the rest of the items I already own. What do you think? Does it sound like a good idea?

You can find all my statement blouse options here (adlinks);

Red – Michael Kors Collection
Black and sliver – RIXO London 
White  – Anna Mason 
Black and white – Ganni
Blue geo-print – Y.A.S
Silver – Galvan

I’m so excited that a few of you have decided to join in on my challenge. Is anyone else going for a statement blouse in February?

 

How to be more efficient by “closing circles”

How to be more efficient by "closing circles"

If you are anything like me, then you probably have about a hundred different thoughts in your head at any point wrestling to become the primary one. You also know the feeling of the pang of adrenalin when we remember something we have to do/have forgotten to do/are worried to forget to do. 

I’m constantly worrying about remembering everything I might have forgotten. It’s very time and energy-consuming.

My solution has always been lists. Long lists, color-coordinated lists, subject-specific lists, lists in my bullet journal, list on notepads and list-apps in my phone.

It does work and lists do give me a bit of structure, so I don’t have to feel like I’m constantly juggling too many balls mentally. But I still do have to remember to look at all my lists and actually do the stuff I put on them.

Lists are good, but they still leave me with a brain filled with imaginary post-it notes.

Then a very successful friend loaned me a book that gave me a new method and clarity to my thinking. Actually, it wasn’t the actual book that changed me, even though it was a great read. But in the margin, somewhere in the middle, my friend had written “closing circles”. The book was about efficiency, so it kind of fits the subject. And it made me think.

One of the reasons why it feels overwhelming to remember all these things constantly is because we are a bit like computers with too many windows open. Our whole to-do list is always there, open to us, stealing our energy in the background.

When we add our tasks to a list we might close the window for a while. But we still have to come back to open it up and finish it later.

how to be more efficient by closing circles

So lately I have changed my way of structuring what I need to do and how I do it.

I stopped addressing my lists in order. Instead, I start every day by skimming what I need to do and what circles I can close with the least possible effort. So that they won’t be hanging around in the back of my head stealing my precious brainpower.

Small tasks like calling someone, do the last step of a bigger job or send a message or an email is quick and easy. These circles can be closed with minimal effort.

And then I can focus my mind on the bigger things that really need my undivided attention after.

The brain will see one task as equal to another. No matter if it’s a big task like doing our taxes or a smaller one like sending a happy birthday message to a friend. If I start my day by quickly running through all the smaller tasks. Then my brain will be a lot more peaceful and able to focus on the big stuff later.

I personally also feel that if I get a few small bits done and dusted early in my day. Then it makes me feel more efficient and the rest of the tasks seems easier somehow. I’m already in the flow of things when I get to them.

This method of closing circles has made me a lot more focused and efficient. It really seems to be compatible with my kind of brain. I also think it’s one of the main reasons why my stomach ulcer is feeling a lot better these days. I just don’t have the same kind of mental stress and pressure anymore.

So if you feel like you have a bit too much on your mind and don’t really know where to start – try to think “closing circles” and see if it helps.

Photo – Ida Zander. Location – Maitre choux Kings Road

 

Mindful Monday 28th January

Makeup baby distater

Hello you guys, it’s Monday! Are you ready for a new week?

I had an interesting start to this Monday.

I couldn’t find my keys this morning, so I was frantically running around looking in any little hole or drawer Ace might have put them in. (Turns out Garth accidentally took them…) After a while, I realized it was very quiet in the house, a bit too quiet. Like when a child is up to something naughty kind of quiet.

…and then I spent the next 40 minutes wiping lipstick off the boy, the dog, the sofa, the buggy and about every other surface of the house. I hope Ace likes pink because he will be slightly piggy-tinted for the next week or so. Good staying power in the lipstick though.

I do kind of enjoy little moments like this. It really made me giggle and of course, I had to take a photo or two before the oil came out (olive oil works a treat on the skin and hard surfaces!)

It’s really fun that Ace now has his own will and even though it’s not as funny when I find the remote control swimming in the loo, I do really enjoy him getting older and naughtier.

Here is my Mindful Monday list with my event, vision, lesson, and mantra of the week;

My mantra this week – ” I decide my own worth”. I have definitely been stuck in the trap of people-pleasing during many years of my life. I actually think it’s a bi-product of schooling. It’s such an authoritative place where your value only seems based on your achievements and what other people think of you. It’s terrible for children since it couldn’t be more opposite in the real world. Our value is determined by ourselves and what other people think of us and our achievements are secondary. If we are not happy with who we are and what we do, then we can never actually feel true happiness. Not everyone is going to like everything we do and if we cared about it then we would never feel like we can do anything right.

My affirmation this week – ” Onwards and upwards”. I’m really positive about the future at the moment. I feel like I have an idea of what choices I have in front of me and now it’s just up to me to figure out what direction to go. One part of me would love to have baby no 2 soon to be able to dedicate this part of my life in large to my family. But another side of me feels like I have just landed in this whole Mom-thing and I’m not sure if I’m ready to rock the boat this soon.

My goal this week – In January I was focused on trying to get my taxes done on time. I finally finished yesterday and it feels amazing to have it done and dusted. In February my goal is to Marie Kondo my life. So this week is a bit of an in-between time. I will use it to tie up loose ends and get all those small everyday tasks done.

My dream of the week– To be completely mortgage-free by the time we retire. Garth and I have been watching this show on Netflix about people who have managed to own their homes without a mortgage. Either by buying outright with cash, building cleverly, re-purposing buildings or other clever ways. It really resonated with us and I could see it being a good fun challenge for us. Now we just need to figure out the how…

My vision this week – ”Best friends, aromatherapy, water, and treatments” My vision is in the future to have a set spa-date with my closest friends every month. We used to meet up over drinks, but it doesn’t feel as appealing anymore. A spa date with fluffy towels, hot bath, saunas and lots of calm-time is a much better fit. And way healthier too!

Mindful Monday - My event, vision, lesson, and mantra of the week

My focus this week – Is to remove pink lipstick from all our furniture at home…? Actually, my focus is to get well. I haven’t been sleeping nearly enough recently, and that’s probably why I still struggle with this crappy cold. So this week I will make sure to go to bed on time, eat healthy food and take my vitamins.

The event of the week – Date night on Friday! Garth and I really need time to just get to hang out as adults work and baby free to be able to talk about things and plan for the future. So we have a set date every month now. I can’t wait.

My lesson from last week – Do not leave taxes until the last minute! Then I end up having to stay up at night and that completely clashes with Aces bad nights. The night before yesterday I had about 1 hour of sleep divided up into 10-minute chunks. Not ideal… #Momlife

My everyday-luxury this week –I’m fancying treating myself to some new makeup. Maybe something by Charlotte Tilbury or Tom Ford? I want to clear out and get new stuff that I really love.

My inspiration this week  – The account @thegoodquote   on Instagram always seem to brighten up my day. I find that those little motivational mini-moments are really beneficial to my inspiration.

Ok, what about you, what is your event, vision, lesson, and mantra of the week?

 

The sustainable 5-in-1 gift & why bigger sometimes is better

The sustainable 5-in-1 gift & why bigger sometimes is better

So I would like to show you my Christmas gift I got from my beloved hubby.

It’s a Van Cleef & Arpels “Sweet Alhambra” necklace. Something I have been looking at for a very long time and are super blessed to now wear daily around my neck.

I say Christmas gift from Garth but it’s also a Christmas gift from Ace, an anniversary gift, a valentines gift and a bit of a push present. It’s a 5-in-1 gift!

I love this, let me explain why.

Yes, a Van Cleef & Arpels necklace is an expensive thing to receive. And it’s quite the indulgence. However if I would have got separate gifts for all of these occasions and added up the value of all of them, it would probably have been pretty close.

So instead of getting 5 things that probably would have been lovely, I got something that I absolutely adore, have been wanting for a VERY long time and will use every day for many many years to come.

Van cleef & Arpels sweet alhambra necklace

It really ties in well with my one-item-a-month philosophy. Instead of 5 new items, I now have one. It’s a lot more sustainable to get someone one amazing thing, than several nice things.

I would love to take this idea further and will do my best to try to get a few friends together to buy one bigger gift than separate ones for birthdays. It takes away a lot of the guessing when buying gifts, and only one of us will have to go out to get it. win-win-win!

I could also wish for the bigger things myself and ask my family to pool together. Sure it’s not the most surprising way of receiving gifts. But if I truly would want to be surprised I could always ask them to get me something pre-loved or from their own home that they don’t use anymore. That would be another sustainable way of gift-giving.

What do you think of the 5-in-1 gift idea and do you have any other suggestions of sustainable gifting?

You can find the yellow gold version of my necklace pre-loved here. (adlink)

 

Mindful Monday 21st January

my dream, vision, lesson, and goal this week

It’s Monday AGAIN? It felt like it was Monday only yesterday… someone seriously needs to make weeks longer. 

Time seems to be moving quicker and quicker the older we get. One day we will all stand there and see the end coming and hopefully, we can look back and think “I did good”. Well, at least that’s the goal.

At the moment I would regret not taking enough risks, not having failed enough and not having made enough mistakes to learn from. And my health… I would regret all the stressing and not making time for myself.

Of course, time with Ace ( my little 15-month-old boy) is what I would want to have prioritized the most. But at the moment I feel like I have a fairly good balance. So hopefully I’m doing pretty good in that part of my life.

The other stuff I will have to work on. Hopefully, I will have a good few more years to get it right.

Health wise I’m actually already feeling a lot better since I decided to stop taking everything so seriously all the time. I have decided to work for me and not anyone else… If that means a casting less and a post or two fewer some weeks, then that’s just the way it has to be. I’m aiming for quality and to find a pace that’s sustainable to keep up.

This is my week’s dream, vision, lesson, and goal;

My mantra this week  – “Do I need this in my life?” – I have set a big process in motion and have really realized that I need to have/do/ create less, but better. So at the moment, I’m analyzing everything in my life to see if it will still fit into my new chapter or if I’m ready to let it go. I only want the core, the best-of-the-best left when I’m done. So I have time for the important stuff without all the other fluff to take up my energy and time.

My affirmation this week – ”Positivity is my superpower”. I have realized how lucky I am to have a dial in my brain that’s always set towards positivity. I’m just made that way. I actually have to make myself be critical or I probably wouldn’t ever be. It’s a superpower since it makes me happy. However, it does sometimes lead to me not noticing when something isn’t good for me. So it’s something I will have to work on. But all in all, I see positivity as the key to a happy life.

My goal this week – To survive until Garth gets back and then get some much-needed sleep haha. Ace is in leap 10 and each of these phases comes with really crappy sleep at night. Last night he was up every hour calling “Mamma, mamma, Olive (the dog), Olive”. Very cute, but I’m basically surviving on caffeine now. It’s only a short time in life kids are this little, so I actually don’t mind all that much.  Soon I will have to drag him out of bed to get ready for school…

My dream of the week – A happy life. Isn’t that the end-goal for all of us? The hard bit is to figure out exactly what makes us happy. Can you buy it with money? Is it connected to love? Creativity? Pleasures? Experiences? Fulfilled potential? Peace of mind? Happiness is individual and we all have to figure out our own perfect formula. Until I find mine I will keep working on getting a little bit happier with every day that passes by.

My vision this week – “Bags are packed, 2 kids with excitement all over their faces, a trip and a few hours later we are in our second home” Somewhere warm, where we spend at least 2-3 month a year (depending on school). Instead of going on lots of small trips we get to have almost like a second life somewhere else. It could be both exciting and educational.

Mindful Monday - my dream, vision, lesson, and goal

My focus this week– The future. Garth and I are going to see a financial advisor. We are pretty good at planning and investing, but we figure there is nothing to lose in getting some help. I would love to learn a bit more on how to invest in stocks here in the UK. I found it a lot easier back in Sweden, and I would need a bit of guidance to find an easy way to do it here.

We also want to keep on investing in properties. It’s a good business for us, even though the whole Brexit scramble is all over the place, we still think it’s a pretty good long-term investment.

The event of the week – Was actually today. I got a call-back to the commercial casting I went to last week. The chances of me actually booking the job are pretty slim. I have been auditioning for this casting director for 14 years and he is yet to book me. But I’m happy to have been called back. I’m still just getting back into the industry after having been off on maternity leave.

My lesson from last week  – I have this strong feeling that I’m on the right path towards Tess 3.0. The 2.0 upgrade came when I left Sweden for the UK 14 years ago and I’m ready for a new chapter. I know who I am now, and it’s time to figure out what I want. The exciting thing about digging deep in yourself is that you have no idea what you mind find. Some stuff might surprise you.

My everyday-luxury this week– On Thursday I’m planning to book a massage at home in the evening. I’m one of those people that think a massage should hurt, so I always go for a sports massage. I want to feel like I have been run over by a truck after. Then I know that it actually did something.

My inspiration this week  – “21 lessons for the 21st century” (adlink). I only just started this book, but it’s already blowing my mind. How do you deal with possibly becoming irrelevant in a market run by AI in the future? It brings up lots of questions that will be current very soon, but we at the moment don’t really have an answer to. It’s not an easy read, but very informative.

Ok, your turn! What’s your dream, vision, lesson, and goal this week?

 

My one item a month challenge – January

One item a month for 2019 - My new challenge

One of my goals for 2019 is to have less but better. 

It goes for everything in life, but at the moment I’m focusing my attention on my wardrobe. I have been aiming for quality over quantity for a while now. But I have never really managed to do a proper clear-out. I’m a bit of a clothes-hoarder. But after reading “The art of tidying up” and deciding that 2019 is the year I clean house (or even clean life). I’m finally ready to let go. In February all items that I don’t love will go. No exceptions. I will finally make space for my dream wardrobe.

And after my big clear out I have given myself a little challenge for the rest of the year:

My problem has always been that I have fancied an item, decided it was too expensive and instead ended up buying 3 things that were almost as good. Ie I spent the same amount and actually never really loved what I got. So stupid when I think of it now!

So to make my wardrobe more sustainable and to make sure I won’t buy anything else that I will only get rid of I’m only allowed to buy one item of clothing a month for the rest of 2019.* 

This will make me have to plan my purchases, think about and be completely sure of what I want to get. No more impulse, almost-right, and emotional shopping. I might even try to have decided on what I’m getting before the 1st of some months. Then I know it will be something I truly love and not another compromise.

I haven’t really got a specific budget, but I do know approximately how much I usually spend on clothes in a month. So I will aim for that amount or less and if I want to get something a bit more fancy, then I can “save up” a month or two first.

* The exception to the one item a month rule are things I have to get because I need them and not because I want them, like socks. It would feel a bit sad to blow my monthly buy on something boring like nex Spanx.  

My challenge 2019 - one item of clothing a month for the rest of the year 

I actually kind of started in January. I did get two items, but to my defense, I only came up with the idea after I bought the first one. So I decided that it didn’t count. The first item was a £50 sale bargain from Asos and the other item was also discounted, a maxi dress I have been eyeing up for a while from Swedish designer Filippa K.

I went to try it on in the store when we were in Stockholm for New years. I love the dove grey shade, the floaty silhouette, the pretty sleeves and since it was 40% off it was a no-brainer.

This dress is a very good example of the kind of clothes I want to invest in; a timeless and classic shape in great quality from a nice brand and an item already know I will love. The perfect start of my one item a month challenge.

I have actually already worn it twice. To Lara’s baby shower this weekend and to a lovely breakfast at The Ivy Chelsea Garden with Kicki and Linnéa last week. You see – it’s already working!

The dress is still on sale and you can find it here (it’s about £180 now). (adlink)

Anyone fancy joining me in my “one item a month” challenge? I can show you mine if you show me yours? How about it?

Photo – Ida Zander