5 things to do after you failed to make sure to get back on track

Failure is a part of life, right? Not much comfort when your ego feels like it has been run over by a truck. There are 5 things to do after you failed;

Failure is a part of life, right? Everyone fails and that’s how we learn…bla bla bla. Great stuff in theory, but not much comfort when we feel like our ego has been run over by a garbage truck. 

Truth is, failure is hard. And the more passionate you are about something and harder you have worked for it, the harder you fall.

So at that moment, when all you want to do is to melt into a little puddle on the street, you need a coping mechanism.

There are 5 things to do after you failed;

1. React – Get upset, it’s allowed! But don’t lash out, try to keep it contained to yourself for now. Don’t take any phone calls or answer any emails within the first few hours if you can help it. If you do, your hurt ego will be talking, so wait until you have had some time to go through the emotions before you do anything else.

2. Be kind – Don’t beat yourself up. It won’t do any good. If you made mistakes, you know what they were and you will learn from it. Take a moment and feel sorry for yourself, but keep it brief. 

3. Revisit – Once you have calmed down, it’s very important not to avoid the issue or put a lid on it. Revisit it and make sure that you understand the situation completely. When we get upset, it’s easy to read into things in a different way than if we were thinking more rationally. So make sure you know what’s going on and that you have all the facts.

4. Make a plan – The best way of making yourself feel better and not get stuck in a negative situation is to make a plan. You might not be able to save this particular endeavor, but you can plan the steps to move past it and back on track again. This doesn’t have to be big plans, just a quick 3-step plan you can action in a short time. The most important thing is to not feel stuck.

5. Reward yourself – Failing is a lot harder than succeeding, so if there is any time we need a reward it’s when we have failed well. If you took all the steps above you are already on your way to somewhere better.

Daring to fail is a massive positive and one people don’t do enough of. We are so worried about being seen as a failure that we often freeze and don’t dare to do anything at all.

Thing is, just because we have failed, doesn’t mean we are failures. We just figured out a way that didn’t work. It’s elimination by trying. And only those that keep on trying will eventually find what does work. And if you follow these 5 steps after you failed, you will bounce back pretty quickly.

So what do you say, ready to risk to fail some more? Reach for some big goals? At least now you know what to do after you failed. 

Failure is a part of life, right? Not much comfort when your ego feels like it has been run over by a truck. There are 5 things to do after you failed;

Photo – Roz Alcazar. Blouse by Dea Kudibal (gifted), scarf by Alva Norge (gifted), boots by Marzio Stockholm, trousers by Zara and bag by Chanel. My dog is called Olive. 

8 Comments

  1. Hey Tess, I love this article. Too often we avoid doing something because we’re afraid to fail. And when it does happen, we try to get past it without much thought behind it. What a great reminder to feel our emotions and make a plan to do better in the future!

    1. Thank you Arielle, I’m so glad you enjoyed the article. I never used to take the time to learn from my mistakes, but I have gotten a lot better at it now.

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    1. Så glad att du gillar det !

  3. Hej Tess! Jag uppskattar din blogg jättemycket. Jag tycker du har ett sätt att skriva på som är skönt att läsa och dina inlägg är intressanta. Jag vet att i och med att du stängde din svenska blogg och bara har din engelska så har du ändrat stil på din blogg. Nu är inläggen mer som du skulle kunna hitta i en tidning eller så. Jag tycker att de är bra, men det som verkligen drog mig till din blogg var de lite mer personliga inläggen. Det var till exempel helt fantastiskt när du berättade om era svårigheter att bli med barn och skapade en grupp för andra. Jag vet att du uppskattar feedback så jag skulle vilja önska lite mer personliga inlägg. De behöver inte vara i stil á la Kenza där du berättar vad du gör varje dag, utan bara en liten uppdatering då och då om hur du mår och vad som händer i ditt liv. Jag kommer såklart kika in här oavsett, men ville bara föra fram mina tankar. Hoppas allt är bra! Kram Ida

    1. Hej Ida,
      Tack snälla för dina fina ord. Tyvärr så var det just det mer personliga som blev väldigt svårt på slutet med den svenska bloggen. Det öppnar upp för otroligt mycket negativitet från vissa läsare och tillslut blev det inte roligt att blogga längre. Därför är bloggen mer “engelsk” nu. Jag har delat så mycket av mig själv och kanske inte alltid fått så mycket positivt tillbaka i så många år att det inte gick längre. Så här på bloggen blir det mer artiklar (men jag använder min Instagram stories mer som en personlig behind-the-scenes om du tycker att det kanske är lite roligare att titta in där?)

      1. Tack för ditt svar! Vad tråkigt att höra att folk var så negativa och skickade elaka kommentarer osv. Jag förstår att det tog bort gnistan i att blogga. Det ska ju vara roligt för dig! Jag har alltid uppskattat din blogg och gör det fortfarande. Nu förstår jag lite bättre varför du valt en annan väg. Jag ska absolut kika mer på insta stories också – tack! Ha det så gott!

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